My background as an Arab has injected me with so many things that I find hard to get rid of some.However, the idea of taking off shoes by the door before entering the house is an essential tradition and cultural mannerism that I still hold to until today while many sees it as unnecessary act. I have noticed how people felt insulted in this society when asked to take off their shoes when I invited them over to my place. This is a simple and easy to do but yet brings discomfort to people and a nuisance for myself. One of the many things that took some getting used to was the common use of what I consider to be foul language. Two things Arab men refuse to disclose any information about is "his wife", moreover never ask him anything about "his car or his wife". Yet I felt very awkward when a customer asked me if his wife is beautiful enough when I was working in a restaurant a long time ago. After all I have to say that I have adapted to many things I came across in the society here except the idea not "taking shoes off at the door".
Well, not only Arabs take off their shoes before entering the house.I was tolled to do so since I can remember and I still do this, most of the time : )But not everyone does it! I have friends (not from my country) who learned that from me - I just asked them to take those shoes off...they were surprised by my request but understood my point.Guys-always take your shoes off when visiting, it's the sign of respect to the host.
ReplyDeleteIts also a custom in Asian countries too(but watch out for thieves).. Even over here I leave my shoes beside the door way.. but I always tell my friends that they don't have to open their shoes at my place... but they still do..some things never let go off you that easily...
ReplyDeleteChinese also take their shoes off before enter the room, or at least take off the shoes in certain area just by the entry. Tell you all a funny story. I heard Japanese are paying great attention on ritual and practices that most of the Japanese family will require family members to wear different slippers in different rooms. For example, once you get out from the corridor and enter kitchen, there will be a pair of slipper for you only to wear in the kitchen. I think it will be even odder for Americans. But the information will be more convincing if it could be confirmed by a Japanese classmate.
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